How can you compare two acts that you didn't see? You don't even know who is telling the story, let alone whether their description is a fair account of what happened. We don't any of us know what happened. Still, we're all taking sides, and arguing over the details.

Even worse, though, we are all getting emotionally involved--venting real anger, not just at the victim and the perpetrator, but at each other.   My advice is to ignore everything that's been said and run like hell.