Whew. Glad the child is home. Spouse going to jail may be the best thing that happened to him - and to our Temporarily Anonymous member (when I posted something after losing custody of my kids, there was none of this thread creep into is the poster a creep, I might add, and I got a *lot* of support, so I'm glad Anon came here, wish I'd seen the post sooner, sounds terrifying) because now, maybe he'll see that it isn't just the Wife who has these ideas of how things ought to be, but Reality, and get some help. For both of them.

Good luck!