We also have a problem, but with one of our own cats. He is a big, boofy cat and has been neutered but that makes no difference to his behaviour. He still is top of the pecking order in a family of 6 cats and 2 humans, sometimes. There is his grandmother, his aunt, his sister, his niece and his nephew. I don't know what breed he is. He is tabby with yellow underfur.

He continually bullies his very gentle aunt, and nothing we do seems to stop him, except keeping them separated. We've tried the spray bottle, which works for everything else, we've tried the alpha male or female trick, and if he has misbehaved and we go for him and push him firmly (but not roughly) down he drops to the floor and stays there until we move away. Sometimes he drops without being pushed, because he knows the drill now.

I feel dominated by this cat sometimes because he rules the roost, although we act like the alphas to try to convince him otherwise. So, I'm interested in ideas too.

Helen