Warning, thread drift ahead....

to expand on Liz's comment about not having someone with you 24/7...when my father had bypass surgery a couple of years ago he needed to have someone stay with him for the first couple of days home to make sure he took his meds on time, prepare his meals, etc. Pretty light duty stuff. So I volunteered. I brought a book with me and just hung out with him, doing the things he needed to have done but trying to stay out of the way. He made a comment at one point during the 2nd day that will stay with me for the rest of my life. He said "I'm glad it was you who stayed with me. You don't need me to entertain you, you can just BE". It was one of the nicest compliments I've ever gotten.