It's extraordinary how this debate goes. Because *every* time I've seen the debate, people make the same points, and rebut them the same way.

It would do more good if people actually looked at the research on the effects of different methods of child rearing.

Saying what your own experience was and taking it as a universal rule is about like saying "I've walked across five-storey roofs hundreds of times and I've never fallen off, so it's perfectly safe"!