My brother passed away this last Tuesday, after surgery--I have not been close to him for a long time, partly because I live a long distance away from the rest of my family, and partly because he lived in a personal kind of isolation--

I have come back home, and much of the time, I find myself in the same place that you are. I feel great pain for my parents, who saw him everyday(though he kept aloof from them, as well) and my invalid grandmother(who he lived with)and find that I have isolated moments of crying, a lot of regret about our relationship, and sadness about the kind of life he led.

Will you be involved in making the "final arranagements"?