I'm sorry to read about this--her death will affect those directly related and those previously related. Condolences to all.

I have an estranged brother, and the relationship begs the same question this post raises, how will I feel if I learn of his passing? I find I cross my fingers sometimes when I click on a story of some violent act in my hometown newspaper, hoping that he wasn't the perpetrator. Would I travel to his funeral? I'm sure I would, because it would be an opportunity to see the rest of the family. Would he attend my funeral? Hard to guess, but I hope not because he'd probably be disruptive.

SRS