You have absolutely no information about the history or the situation of the family-yet you assume it is intirely Mom's fault, i.e.If people are poor it is because they make bad choices--maybe out of ignorance-but bad choices must be the reason.

THE HELL I DO. THERE IS NOTHING I THOUGHT OR SAID TO SUPPORT THIS.

How do you know Mom 'got' herself in this situation. for all any of us know she was widowed at an early age, or beat by a drunk husband until she had to leave with the kids, or had to quit college or drop out of high school to help take care of a sick or dying parent, or to help support her own mothers family. You ignore the information that she works.


I SHOULD NOT HAVE TAGGED IN TO THIS PARTICULAR POST. I WAS SPEAKING GENERICALLY AND SHOULD HAVE MADE THAT MORE CLEAR.

And you must think she is absolutely bouncing with energy when she gets home to sew all those gently used clothes and she has scads of time to buy in bulk and prepare food from scratch, etc., etc. etc.

THIS IS WHAT MOST PEOPLE HAVE ALWAYS DONE. SHE (GENERIC)CAN HEM A SKIRT IN 20 MINUTES ONCE A MONTH OR SEW A FEW BUTTONS ON. IT WILL TAKE HER 10 MINUTES TO THROW SOME MEALS TOGETHER, NOT COUNTING COOKING TIME AND HER CHILDREN, IF THEY ARE OLD ENOUGH CAN HELP. IF SHE IS IN GOOD HEALTH, SHE GENERICALLY, THESE THINGS ARE NOT PROBLEMS. These are skills that everyone, every single person needs to have.


This is a very very serious problem..taking what people did not say or think and get into they are blaming the victim mentallity. It totally shuts down conversaton. No, they might be looking for solutions to very serious problems. I think it is not unreasonable to expect people in good health to cook food from scratch, a pot of soup on the weekend, a pot of oats in the morning. Fast and premanufactured food is a serious serious problem in this country and everyone who has children has to find healthy ways to feed them. That used to be expected that they would cook food. With a used George Foreman grill ($1 at a thrift shop) and a used slow cooker ($1 at a thrift shop, a person can put out some good and cheap and healthy dinners. And you do not need to cook. You can do a lot with reheating foods you ahve already cooked, and healthy salads and sandwiches etc.

That is what I am trying to say. We need to get young men and women in high school and make sure they know how to do these things. We shouldn't be graduating them if they can't cook a pot of beans or make an omellete.