Jeff, thank you again for your perspective. I think this thread has given various folks, other than me, the opportunity to think of their parents who've passed on & their feelings about that passing. I feel very much the way you do about family heritage. Even though my parents sometimes saw the differences that a generation bring, I've always felt that I believe in & practice many of their beliefs & that I, in my generation, am a positively contributing member of society as they are/were. I hear my father's teaching on a daily basis--silly things, sometimes--pour with confidence, may not can, "stick with me, kid; I'll get you there" & "just a couple more hours" (car trip comments!).

Jeff, on your dad's behalf, congratulations on your promotion; that's really great!!! I don't know if our loved ones are aware of what we're doing, but, if he is, I'm sure he's proud. I'm glad my dad knew, before he died, that my life is now relatively secure. There were many years, during & after my divorce, when I know he worried about me. Thankfully, I also had the chance to tell him, several times, how much I loved him, what a good upbringing he & Mom had given me, how much I appreciated his support & love. Yes, there is no longer the chance to communicate with him in this life, but I know that our relationship was clear & that no important words were left unsaide between us.

I just got back from the New England Folk Festival--a wonderful weekend of music & friends. I got a lot of hugs, saw many friends I only see about 3 times a year, & heard some really fine music. I also cried at some point during almost every sessions & a few conversations. And, mostly, it was good. I guess the Sacred Harp sing this morning was the most extreme. During 2 consecutive songs, I couldn't sing at all; I just sat there & let the music envelope me. Sacred Harp (shaped note) music is a strong thing &,even as I felt bad, it had a healing effect. That hour is probably as close as I'll get to a funeral for my dad, for now. It turned out that this weekend did help me in my grieving & I was glad I went.

best,

bbc