Of course apply standards to everyone. And we leave out a step when we understand what causes people to tend to behave in certain ways..and that step is to be sympathetic, to provide barriers to that behavior, both cultural, physical like stoplights etc., and say, we understand why you want to beat your wife, but sorry, you can't. We leave out the step that says they can't do certain things because we think once we understand why they do certain things our job is finished. No, it is not. They still don't get to kick the dog. We can understand what makes them want to, but they don't get to. We can understand why they might want to use drugs, but they still don't get to. If they do, any temporary relief is offset by their lives being ruined, cops being killed, their neighbors living in fear etc. So no, you don't get to kick the dog. We understand that you are lonely and in dire financial straits, but no, you can not let this child molester in your home to rape your daughter. No.   mg