Well thought out as usual, BillD. Thanks.

...clearly it is she who sees everything as a racial issue. That's certainly the way it seems.

I like what this guy has to say:

from HERE

Decent people should seek balance instead -- to make race neither smaller than it is nor larger. Because race is neither a defining facet, nor a demeaning facet, of individual identity. It's a facet, period. Unfortunately, much of what passes for racial dialogue in this country is the chatter of two extremes: the Afrocentric-to-the-point-of-paranoia one that says race matters always, and the ''colorblind'' one that says it matters never.

That's a false dichotomy. Race matters when it matters, and it doesn't when it doesn't.

So there's no need to reconcile what I said about color with what King said, because there is no dissonance. He didn't say avoid color, ignore color, pretend it doesn't exist. The key to what he said lies in four words:

''Not be judged by.''