well...cross posted with Susan. And we have very different responses, I see.....
but Susan is right...we DO have that mutual respect, mostly BECAUSE we don't have "conditions upon on another"...except that neither of us is trying to 'convert' the other. What we DO have is some comprehension of what the other's viewpoint and outlook is; and somewhere we learned how to balance having differences with expressing differences.

   I did it in a very formal way, thru college and Philosophy classes, and applying rules of thinking & logic until it became very natural to evaluate other viewpoints in a reasonably fair way....and I suspect that this is how it MUST be done for a great many, as the tendency in local & family and religions groups is to retreat behind defenses and claims that "WE" are right.

......it ain't easy....