I agree with Art-"No, that won't work." If you can find a way to let them know why without creating a divide, fine. But personally, I would keep to how the thought of that plan makes YOU feel (eg. We've decided to stay home since we can't bear the thought of him having to stay in a strange place for Christmas.) rather than telling them what you think of the brother because of his callous suggestion.

Keep in mind, if there is dissension between your two families, your dad WILL pick up on it more than you realize and that will only hurt him. You don't want that to happen.

Best to you and your dad as you work this out.

KT


What happened to the idea of staying at daughter's house?