Bert, lighten up, bud. This one hurts. Badly. I'd give a LOT to have either one of my parents for just one day, Christmas, whatever.

What I am not and was NOT willing to do was abandon either of them to their Fate. I took care of both of them at home, (and for Dad, in a care home 100 miles from me) until they died.

IMO, the brother could well be quite sorry when it's far too late. Don't mince words with the bro, and just be there and take care of dad.

Strange nursing home indeed.

Sorch, still reeling from the loss of Colin. Life sucks. So, we gotta deal with it. Til we die.