Tough situation, kat.
I raised my son without a dime of support from the dad. I didn't even
pursue it. We were never married and he never wanted to see Ryan,
not even a photo. I found it easier to just live as
economically as possible, raise Ryan alone, used credit cards and
home equity when I had to, and now at 55 I'm working to pay off
the expenses of those child raising years. Ryan had a stable, loving
childhood and tells me he would not have wanted it any other way.
He has turned out to be a great young man.
Life's not fair. I just accepted that and moved ahead as positively as possible.