Well, it's a delicate and pressing and hot-button situation, so be careful what advice you follow because sometimes there's what's right and sometimes there's what's possible.

The best advice I can offer is to just listen to her and let her think her own way through this-- also probably the hardest advice-- as I am sure you know. What I really mean, is-- I feel for ya, and for her, and for the kids, because no matter how you cut it, it SUCKS.

~Susan