MY two cents worth: I've always thought "Queer" was real put down & never used it. I do prefer the gay word--some how it seems more friendly then hostile.

Cousin Richard sent me some snaps from the gay contingent of Queens County, NY St. Patrick's Day parade. Several banners said: "Irish Queers" or "Queers for St. Patrick." In my naiveté, that surprised me. I would still feel uncomfortable using it though.