We have to pay attention to the mistakes other people make as they have to pay attention to those we make. That is what societies do, for better or for worse..and it keeps the worst things from being done, by and large..or at least reduced. If we only self-monitored, we would feel justified in most of our behavior, the envelopes for socially damaging behavior would be pushed and pushed, as they are nowadays...at some time we have to rise up and say no, you can not do that...or people have to rise up and tell us, no you can not do that...and there is no shortage of stupid and/or selfish people who can't or won't impose limits on themselves so society has to act as a boundary setter..or there will be increasing chaos and increasing child neglect..which there is. Which this situation is. mg