Just a follow-up, fwiw: my daughter received the final papers from the court the other day. They informed her that the court would be taking the child support out of her ex's pay check as of a certain date, so apparently it is out of her hands. I am glad she didn't have to make that decision. The way he has been acting, even worse and more resentful, I think it is the best way of dealing with the whole situation. I have since heard of a few things which make me feel a lot less hospitable towards him and make it obvious he IS in need of some counselling, but will continue to refuse it. In the meantime, she is doing all she can to keep the kids out of the rancorous bits and let them know they are loved and it is NOT their fault their parents are not together.

Thanks, again, for all of your comments and support,

kat