Bobert,

You don't need a referendum of other Catters' memories to vote who was right; you just need to assure him/her the future will be thoughtful. Just send a PM indicating you're sorry if you inadvertently caused a problem and say you will be careful about it in future. That's true, isn't it?

The thing to repair here is not your jam etiquette-- it's the relationship. Ask P-Vine; she'll probably agree with me.

~S~