the original comment by 'anon' was hardly 'berating'...it just made a mild point...and I suspect that for something like that, it is probably better to be anonymous...it allows one to share posts in the next thread without the specific tension of having to "talk to that #@%&*! who made remarks about me earlier"... a group as widely diverse as this needs some mechanism to disagree without having personalities be too large a part of it, or having ones hastily chosen words or attempt at humor be mis-understood...it is a real problem in this format to convey 'tone of voice' and body language...lets just be as careful as we can...