In most of the black couples I have known, the woman has more actual power.

But ya know, this is a slicing and dicing of opinion, and yours is as good or better than mine.

I am not a zealot, although I am enthusiastic about Obama. I just don't think our political life should be so voraciously crosshatched into competing subsections. These categories of existence and our ironclad identification with them are a bog part of the problems we face. Starting or continuing them is, to my mind, not only a waste of time, it hampers the common good.


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