"He who believes in the division between Within and Without
Is destined to wander forever from sorrow unto sorrow."

Baghavad Gita

In one's highest True nature, one is an individual at will, but inherently part of all others as well. To deny one is an intimate extension of each Other with whom one is spiritually connected is to deny one's own highest Soul, and therefore to be nought.

Knowing this, your friend asks, "Who am I, if you are not me?", with the implication, "...and I do not see myself in you I cannot say I am myself."

A very deep truth, and one easily forgot in the hurlyburly and the hustings.

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