Guest Anika:Were I wearing a hat, I would tip it to you. It must be very difficult to sing at a memorial service for one's parent.
Provided an excellent acapella choir is available, I think Bach's "Come Soothing Death," says it all. Also, "Going Home," based on "The New World Symphony" is very effective as is "Beautiful Saviour" (F. Melius Christiansen Arrangement).
DougR