Hey SRS,

I didn't mean to make your words out to be offensive and in this age of "difficult" topics of conversation I should have known better than to be so casual in my reference to your post.

My intention was to clarify what I feel is an important point.

That the issue of sexual abuse is not about limitations on ones sexual appetite, but about ones general mental and sexual health.

There is a view of men, used by some men to justify their excesses, which states that we would "do" anything or anybody but that we learn to restrain our natural animal hunger for gratification by means of self imposed ethical rules.

I don't share this view.

I hold the view that mental health, and mental illness intrude into all aspects of our lives, including sexuality. Sexual abuse and rape are unhealthy and require a seriously distorted perception of ones experience to be indulged.

If I were to witness this type of abuse, I would be traumatised and sickened by the experience.

I am able to empathise with other humans because I have a healthy brain and a human heart. I care about how people feel and my instinct when I see somebody in pain, frightened or even just uncomfortable is to try and help them.

And I believe that most men would feel the same way.

An abuser somehow bypasses this instinct.