Jude L - I used the term "normal" very loosely but meant it to include the ability to make and keep friends and relationships, earn a living and enjoy leisure activities. Yes, it is more difficult but it is not impossible. My niece, who has Aspbergers, has surprised us all.

She graduated from high school, got a job, married and lives quite happily with her husband in their modest home. She is probably the most "normal" person in our family. She leads a very simple life but she is content. She has friends and family that adore her (even if she is a bit 'odd'). Her life is very routine and uncomplicated and thats the way she likes it.

Susan - Yes, the school board is responsible for helping this child to adapt socially but the schools are underfunded. In Canada, you can get on the waitlist at school (urgent cases always have priority when there are not enough services available) or seek Occupational therapy services through the hospital (Dr. referral required). Others go directly for private counselling. When it comes to the school board, the squeaky wheel gets the grease but believe me, the teachers do not need more pressure and without recommendations from a specialist, they are usually quite unprepared to meet such diverse needs. My advice is to find outside help and do not wait. You can then pass the recommendations on to the teacher. A team approach is always best.

Someone brought up a very good point and one that teachers often avoid and that is the socialization of peers. Usually, classmates want to know how to help. We have pupeteers who present a play called "friend to Friend," which has been useful. Its so much easier to socialize a child when everyone is involved. "Its OK to be Different" is an excellent book and when combined with Art, the lesson is very effective. My classes have produced anmazing portraits with captions such as:

Its OK to have a space between your teeth.

Its OK to have a birthmark on your chin.

Its OK to have short arms.

Its OK to have big ears.

Its OK to be left-handed.

When people start looking at their own imperfections, they begin to have more tolerance for others.

btw - a diagnosis is pretty useless unless its accompanied by recommendations for school and classroom. Earplugs are often irritating but its worth a try. Walkmans with favorite tunes also help.