Remember the old one "What do you call someone who hangs around with musicians?" "A drummer."

The drum is a fine instrument. But played with other non-percussion instruments, one at a time is enough. Lots of drummers and such together can have a fine time, like in a samba band dancing around.

I'd suggest taking a box of matches, and making a separate fire for the non-drummers. Two campfires, two different types of music, and people can drift back and forth between them as they choose.

Or three fires - one for the tunes, one for the singers, and one for the drums (and those who want to play along with them). That's not divisive either, it's live and let live - what is divisive is people playing against each other, and resenting each other's presence.

Oh yes, Bonnie - "a big bond fire" - is that a typing error for band, or is it some term I've not come across before? Something to do with whiskey maybe?