"So we've gone from "that would never happen", through "that would never happen here", to "that should never happen" "

No, I have not changed. I speak of what I see here in the United States.

It is not as hard as you make it seem. One person can make a difference, but if you are lacking someone with the dedication to do tha - or if you enjoy complaining instead of fixing, the grave you did is your won.