As already noted, time is the only real cure, but in the meantime, love the kids and focus on helping them get through their own bad time. You and they will be the better for it. I've never heard of anyone who felt they got a fair deal in a divorce proceeding. Most everybody who has ever been through it, especially where kids are involved, feels they got screwed. Sometimes that is truly the case, but mostly it's a case of reality falling short of unrealistic expectations. Remember that the kids won't want to come to you if all they ever get is whinning and moaning and crying. Put on you brightest and best and your happiest face and have fun with the kids. Don't try to buy their affection, but don't be stingy in giving yours. You'll find out soon enough that the little buggers can be devilishly efficient and expoiting differences between mom & dad. Don't let them get by with it.