Ah ha, Paul. And sometimes I feel that way too.

But, there seems to be a difference between the way he seeks to control me as an individual, and the company, and the way a "neuro-typical" person wanting dominance would go about it. It is difficult to explain this, but a combination of rigidity and a reluctance to initiate discussion feels odd. Also, his failing to turn up to meetings indicates he isn't your usual wannabe alpha. He actually didn't bother to come to the AGM at which I was to resign.

I think a lot of the "harassment" was attempts to get me to go to them, rather than them coming round to my door to start discussion. When we did talk, I would feel that I had achieved a movement by both of us towards each other, even if we had not got a final position. Then, next time, he would have gone back to the start again.

I felt, and still feel, that all the controls they put on my life were not done to make me feel controlled, but because he could not cope with a life he was not controlling.

This makes it difficult to deal with by digging my Sussex "wunt be druv" heels in. Tempering the wind to the shorn lamb stuff seems more appropriate.

Penny