Although I do use a form of venting (RC) to avoid building up stored frustrations, I seldom think of unfortunate occurrences as having "ruined my day." For me it's more the case that I wake up, usually, pretty happy to be starting another day (after my morning cuppa, LOL, not as soon as I open my eyes), and looking forward to what it will hold. Only after several things go poorly does it usually dawn on me, "Oh! I think I may actually be having a bad day....."

And then once I see that, I try to limit my damages-- cut back on things I'm trying to get done on that day, keep an eye out for the positive alternatives that may be right in front of me, learn something from whatever is happening, etc.

Case in point-- vision issues.... had been counting, subconsciously, on getting the new glasses. Been waiting.... Crushed to find, Friday, that not only no glasses NOW, but it would still be several MORE long days off. Cried hard, in surprise at how much I'd invested in them-- you see, they will be a huge indicator as to whether I've had another stroke. If the glasses solve the vision (and related) issues, I'll be so relieved, and if not, I'll have a series of doctor visits to negotiate with possible bad news all the way around.

But after about 120 seconds of that grief-- just tasting it and letting it flow out I mean-- I began to notice that Some Other Thing might be in store for me, other than the driving and Usual Activities that have been suspended while I explore this vision thing. And I got right on with those Other Things, and had a good day. A better day than the day before when my brain function had been pretty screwed up all day and I'd bumped, hard and often, into all sorts of "can't do THAT" little failures (and the cost of having not just waited for a better day).

See? I let my smarted brain take charge absolutely the moment it's able to do the job.

Day ruined? Uh no..... redirected.

~S~