Shared custody is not the preferred arrangement anymore, most family therapists are shying away from advising it--I can tell you, as a veteran of a disasterous shared arrangement, that two people who couldn't make things work together are not very likely to be able to make co-operative decisions when apart. The French say, there are very few good marriages, and even fewer good divorces.

Praise has a great idea--and who cares if anyone laughs? Lot's of famous people have decided to go to church, even when millions were derisive--Ministers, priests, and rabbis are about the only people that judges defer to)

(Why is it that you get cheers when you stand up and say that you are a drug addict, but are derided when you say you've decided to go to church?)

Get a letter from the therapist, submitted as a "friend of the court" saying that the child suffers from missing therapy. Don't give up--