Well, I personally know a clutch of lesbians (what is the group name for lesbians?), and as I find virtually everything dealing with sex hilarious, I have always assumed when dealing with gender and all other aspects of sexuality that if there is a God, she/he is an ironist. A friend of mine once referred, at a very straight-laced party I was at, to Mary, the Mother of God as a "bird fancier". This more or less wrecked the evening.

As the Romans said: Inter faeces et urinam nascimur (I leave it in the Latin for the sensitive among us). So it is pretty goofy at the best of times. Thinking about the lesbians I know, some of them just want someone who will not be a man for a while, since men are such jerks; some of them are just loving and it was a woman they arrived at; some of them are guy-like; some are straightout lesbians. I have never found anything that approximated a rule or a science. That my friend took up the torch (see k.d.lang for further explanation) was a total surprise; but given her husband, I would give up on men too. Not that there is anything wrong with that.
yours, Peter T.