Thank you, alison, kat, and moonchild. It was not an easy decison, but I knew that I had made a mistake, and that I was too immature to raise this child, and that this was not a man mature enough to support me, even emotinally,let alone financially. I did have counseling before and after, and I am OK now,30 yrs after the decision, but I still know "his" birthday (sic). Actually, I was mostly OK a year after my decision, but it would have been good to have friends like you back then. I had none, as my parents did not, and never did, know about this grandchild. It was the one thing that I never could tell either of them, before they died. I had already hurt them too much, in too many other ways.

(Read, "I was not the perfect daugher......I was a product of the '60's") It is still difficult to tell an OB/GYN professional the truth when they ask, How many pregnancies? How many live births? etc.

Truly, I have no trouble telling you all this, my husband and my living children know, but it still hurts in my heart, and I don't see that any "lurker/stalker" could hurt me with it. In the same situation, I would do it again, and counsel my daughter to do it also.

And, I agree with you, Jenny moon, that if it is available to some, for some reason, it should be available to all, but I also agree with JenEllen, that induced partial birth abortions are one of the biggest abominations on the planet. My sister had a spontanaeous partial birth abortion at 6 mos. It was not induced, and the baby did not live, but not because of medical intervention. She was not even allowed to name the baby or bury it. The "remains" went into the incinerator at Brigham Women's and Children's in Boston, Mass, USA. She was never even allowed the privilige of admitting she had had a child. Was just an "IT", and she still has not recovered. This was 5 years ago.

Rant off, for now. Probably more later, but so far this is a "friendly" thread.