Having been given the gift of music, is in itself, an honor, and a privilege. How one respects, develops that gift, both humbly, and respectfully, would determine whether or not one is in an 'elite' group, given the high calling one can achieve using that gift. Merely picking up an instrument, and fancying one's self, as an elitist is nothing at all.
Often, those who have 'control issues', are the one's complaining about others being controlling...because it encroaches upon THEIR sense of control!
I know I have had differences with some on here, and I've had agreements as well...but I've also had other points of view, that were presented on here, that I've found enlightening, because of the exchange of ideas. some, I've found well thought out, some well articulated, but in error, some right on and some right off....but as said in Proverbs.."A wise man hears all, before he answers"..and,"There is wisdom in a multitude of counselors".
P.S....I hope you both respect the gift of a vocalist, by not smoking around them(you elitists)....I don't sing anymore, mostly compose, and arrange, and engineer now...got an extra smoke?