Consider yourself welcome. Feel to home.

Every single one of those "big" catters was once uncertain and wondering whether he/she was acceptable. Turned out they all were. In the whole history of this place there have been no more than five people out of thousands who were so adamantly anti-social that they were not acceptable. This community in general has a high tolerance of eccentricity.

If someone says something to you you feel is inordinately derogatory, you have the option of telling them to piss off, or you have the option of explaining yourself, or you have an even better option of coming up with some really funny and creative way of making their grumpiness appear as stupid as it is.

But you do not need to shut up or pull in your horns, especially if there is a real point to the conversation. If it's just playing the dozens, you have the choice of just saying "Pffffft" and walking off to some more interesting thread.

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