Oggie
I asked this question a year or so back and didn't get quite so negative a response.
I also asked for help once with instruments playable by disabled children and amongst the helpful replies was one implying that failing everything else the child concerned could always play with themself.
When the child read this they couldn't handle it, lost faith in me and it destroyed a relationship that had taken 18 months to build.
I don't think one can generalise as to what is and isn't offensive to children anymore than one can generalise between adults.
But I expect I'll draw flak as well!
Baz