"It's wrong for Harry to call an Asian 'Paki', if by doing so he intends to denigrate him and cause hurt."

But we're not to worry about all the other people who are offended by this term then? They don't matter because it wasn't aimed at them personally?

"It's wrong for you to call Harry an 'overprivileged toss-pot' if by doing so you intend to denigrate him and cause hurt."

Which I've acknowledged . . . but if I have to kneel then . . .