Sleepy Rosie, you touch my feelings. Your assessment should be read, and thought through thoroughly by any that profess to want to understand and deal with this problem. Folks write whole tomes on this subject that do not capture its essence as clearly as your 7 paragraphs did.

I was sexually abused as a kid by a Scout leader. Over the years I came to understand how profoundly I was affected by this. Usually some event happens, and all of a sudden another piece of understanding hits. Reading your post was another of those moments.

Thanks, and..... all the best,

Mick