Spaw - sound like you and I feel about th same way, 'cept my wife is Ok with the music off, in the car, until we are both actively listening. The kids never had a say. They could listen tp what they wanted; as long as I didn;t have to listen to anything I didn't want to listen to!! So generally speaking, we observed radio silence in the car! It worked out pretty well.

They're grown now, and on their own ... we actually got along pretty well, and music was never much of an issue. They respected our views.