For sure, Jeri. I understand what you mean.

I know exactly what it is that caused various women to start loving me in the past...and I know what to do to please them, providing I'm willing to do it...I'm not always willing to do it.

It's just that I don't actually want the complications of such a relationship in my life anymore, and I can't be bothered. I am not looking for "the right formuala" to find someone, because I'm not looking, period. I have no strategies in mind for that.

I prefer friendships at this point in my life, not love affairs. Friends are people I can have a good time with playing music or whatever, but I'm a free man when I walk out the door.

Sex? I don't worry much about that anymore. If I never have sex again till the day I die....okay, fine. It's a very enjoyable experience in itself, but it's not the key to happiness.

p.s. I would not have believed my present perspective on this prior to age 50!