I have to agree with you LH. And remember love, or even a heady lust, is blind. We don't want to see those tell-tale clues. We often don't listen to the warnings of friends and family. We WANT TO BELIEVE!

Borderline personalities are particularly difficult to spot. Chameleon is an apt description. They are usually completely hidden from themselves too. All too often, when the negative changes begin to manifest, they make a remarkable case that it is YOUR fault, not theirs. A true test of such mental illness is that it continues to progress in a downward spiral. It becomes the proverbial train wreck; you can see it coming but there is nothing you can do about it.