A SHAM! Oh! I am wounded! I'm going to crawl off in a corner and weep and moan for a bit...nothing hurts like not being believed. ;-)

That other situation you allude to, Peter, where the man loses interest after about a month...yes, that's quite common. I think it happens because the man is basically just trying to satisfy his sex drive (whether he knows that or not), he's seeking short term entertainment in other words, but he definitely doesn't want the complex set of responsibilities that come with an ongoing relationship. Women, on the other hand, usually do want that set of responsibilities, because it makes them feel secure...and loved. In the case of the man, if he's the hit and run kind, it just makes him feel trapped...and probably bored.

That happens with a lot of men, specially younger men. It doesn't go that way with all of them, though, fortunately. Some men are genuinely looking for committment and stability in a relationship.