Wasn't there a thread about this a while back? Talking about murder/ghost ballads, and how the living lover usually has to mourn for a year and a day, and when the dead lover rises they refuse to kiss the living for fear of being followed into the grave. This happens in The Unquiet Grave, and most version of 2 brothers... BUT what I find most interesting is that in The Suffolk Miracle, it's slightly different. There the dead one rises with no effort of mourning on the part of the living, since she doesn't even know he's dead. So when she sees him he claims a headache, so she kisses him and notices that he's "cold as clay" - the usual excuse given by the ghost for not kissing the mourner. Then he vanishes with her handkerchief, found still 'round his head when they dig up the grave to show her that he's really dead, since she won't believe it. I always wondered if after the end of the song, she died, since all the other songs said you'd die if you kissed the dead lover...

Sorry about the ramble, I am trying to jog y'all's memory to find the other thread, since I can't.