Putting a band together and keeping it together is in no way easy. Small colectives are really difficult, as our flute player, in Sorcha Dorcha describes it, it is like a marriege. In our band we have gone through a large number of folks this year, and the process goes on. FIrst of all, you have to have similar musical vissions, then you have to tolerate each other. I would endorce the view that waiting to get better to do anything also puts off getting better. Hard work is a great way to deal with a lot of problems, and puting a band together is in deed hard work. You have to go into it expecting disapointment, and remembering that life is not about not haveing disapointments and failures, but it is about how we deal with those disapointments and failures. Keep the old head to the grindstone and the band will come about one way or another. Having worked with a singer on anti depressants, I would warn that one of the side effects of her treatment was a reduction in motivation. Set concrete goals for yourself in getting the band together and push like hell.
Best of luck
Larry