My son, who sings, plays lead guitar and keyboards and sings, co-founded a band around nine years ago with a fellow guitarist who had a lot of original ideas (most of which, we now know, he "gleaned" from other sources). He played rhythm guitar, for the most part. His voice, both speaking and singing, was not terribly strong, but he insisted on being the spokesperson for the band whenever they played or were interviewed.

My son faced the same conundrum as Wesley. He did not want to jeopardize his friendship, but felt more and more frustrated by his friend's attitudes and behavior, both of which were holding the group hostage. Finally, the problem was solved when the other fellow announced (in a terse e-mail and with no warning) that he was leaving the group. Surprisingly, all the other members of the group applauded and told my son that they now felt they could grow and were ready to follow his lead. Sometimes, a little sunshine leaks in when you finally part the clouds.