Mudcat may not be the place to deal with accountability. I realize in the UK that practically everything is right next door, but in the US things are so well spread out that many, many people here never will cross paths IRL unless they attend the same festival, and travel far to do it.

Also, if I start a thread titled "The Sky is Blue," for example, that doesn't necessarily mean that I'm looking for a debate on skies, blue things, etc.

My sense (since 2000) is that Mudcat was designed to be a place of sharing, not dividing. (It certainly operates better in that mode, in practical terms, in most of the site's features.)

I think there is much that these two people have in common, which would probably be one reason they were friends to start with. Restraint may be one of those things. I like it.

~Susan