I got an apology from a repentent flamer, so I must have been flamed. But I seem to have missed it. Or maybe I've just got a pretty thick skin.

So does that man I'm in or out?

I don't think clique or cult describes whatever it is we are. We might perhaps be a sect? A non-sectarian all-inclusive sect. Sort of like the Borg, but not quite so good with the technical stuff.