Sandy:

As you know, I have spoken with Caroline and we will talk ourselves in time. It is not easy for me to put in words what I feel.

I remember a few minutes of stolen serenity on a bench outside in early May as people sang and plunked in the distance. You were the chauffeur bringing one of your grandchildren somewhere or other or perhaps picking him or her up...I took it for granted. I have watched your grandchildren grow, knowing they were enriched by not just one but two generations of love and care. This is so rare and so important. You and Caroline have given them the very best of yourselves. Kaelan's time was short, and it doesn't feel long enough, ripe enough... but he was the best he could be while it lasted, and you helped see to that. Take pride that you gave him so much and that he grew up as well as he did.

I lost my brother when he was just a few years older than Kaelan-- this is not something one ever gets over. All I can say is I love you like my own family and that some of the most beautiful flowers bloom but for a short time.