Haven't checked in for months,only to find this tragic news.
My deepest condolences to the Pattons.

There's a song written by Dave Carter titled "When I Go",
The last verse has always provided a little comfort.

Sigh mournful sister,whisper & turn,
I will rattle like dry leaves when I go,
Stand in the mist where my fire used to burn,
I will camp on the night breeze when I go,
& Should you glimpse my wandering form out on the boarderline,
Between death & resurrection,& the council of the pines,
Do not worry for my comfort,do not sorrow for me so,
All your diamond tears will rise up & adorn the sky beside me when I go.

DB.